In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin provides guidance on how to gracefully refuse dishes containing allergens while still acknowledging the giver's good intentions.

As they get older, explain why good manners are important ... A “hand in their laps rule” when not eating keeps their elbows off the table. Children should be taught to wait until everyone ...

Some families who think they come from “de buena familia” or old rich families train their children ... to eat quietly and with grace. This article may as well be about table manners because ...