For people with avoidant attachment, keeping some emotional distance feels like a way of protecting themselves. They struggle with being vulnerable because, to them, it can feel overwhelming.

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However, people are concerned that this method will be difficult and unpleasant, so they often avoid it. Telling people that this method is effective can increase people’s tendency to self-explain.